I'm not worried about THEM getting bored. If they don't get bored early on, they won't get bored. I'm worried (with reasons) about MY getting bored. But this probably isn't about kink at all.
I'd like to add two things to your "you can't make a sub out of a non sub" point. Firstly, while you indeed can't make a sub out of a non sub, not only many dudes have vanilla sub tendencies but also many enjoy pleasing their partners sexually for various non subby reasons, and also much bottoming-done-from-affection feels like submission. Secondly, while you almost certainly CAN get service this way, and some kinds of bottoming; you almost definitely CANNOT make a masochist out of someone who doesn't have at least a faint maso streak. I tested it on a few people with physical sm only, so I'm not so sure with emotional masochism, but it seems to be a thing with physical pain. Even when they try, it's just altogether unsatisfying and frustrating all around.
One of your best posts.
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I'm not worried about THEM getting bored. If they don't get bored early on, they won't get bored. I'm worried (with reasons) about MY getting bored. But this probably isn't about kink at all.
I'd like to add two things to your "you can't make a sub out of a non sub" point. Firstly, while you indeed can't make a sub out of a non sub, not only many dudes have vanilla sub tendencies but also many enjoy pleasing their partners sexually for various non subby reasons, and also much bottoming-done-from-affection feels like submission. Secondly, while you almost certainly CAN get service this way, and some kinds of bottoming; you almost definitely CANNOT make a masochist out of someone who doesn't have at least a faint maso streak. I tested it on a few people with physical sm only, so I'm not so sure with emotional masochism, but it seems to be a thing with physical pain. Even when they try, it's just altogether unsatisfying and frustrating all around.
Thanks! Might add a bit on that.