kSafe Timer Safe: Basically Chastity Viagra!
How the cheap timer safe can somewhat intensify your chastity dynamic
The kSafe timer safe is about as unsexual and vanilla as you can imagine. Originally sold as the “Kitchen Safe”, it comes in robust, domesticated plastic, and really doesn’t look out of place on the kitchen counter.
It’s for taking a break from your phone, or cookies, or game controllers. In whatever it is goes! Set the timer! Click!
And it’s basically chastity Viagra. Let me tell you why….
Timer mechanisms have always been the holy grail of self bondage. This, for example, from the Bound Anna site:
Unfortunately, most of those techniques for are trapping a person for hours rather than securing a key for days. So, back in the bad old days when male chastity was mostly self bondage, male chastity fetishists went to a lot of trouble to make their own clunky timer safes. You could even buy a build-it-yourself electronic kit off ebay.
At last, somebody came up with the idea of controlling access, not to your key, but to the combination to the padlock that controlled access to your key. For example:
EmlaLock requires a few things: a combination lock box (the more digits the better), a camera, and a chastity device. Log in and create a chastity session with all of the settings that you want. When you are ready to start your chastity session, set your lock box to a random combination and take a picture of it without looking at the picture, and then upload it. Lock the keys to your chastity device inside the lock box and set it to a new random combination (again, without looking). After your chastity session is over you will have access to the picture of your combination and be able to get the keys to your chastity device out of the lock box.
EmlaLock lets users mess with other people’s release dates, but other simpler apps are available.
Why go to all that fuss?
If the thought of putting a key in the timer safe turned you on, then you already know: certainty.
If you are on the other side of the slash, the consider that without a timed release, all self-bondage is provisional. Masochism is about enjoying things we don’t like. So the bigger the kinky turn on, the more mental strength is required to preserve the situation… and we don’t want to practice mental strength; we want to be weak!
So, the certainty of timed release primarily removes the need for mental strength, enabling the self-bondage enthusiast to surrender mentally, rather than stress over when or whether to end the adventure. An added benefit is a thrilling moment of drama at the point of commitment.
Can’t a dominant provide that delicious certainty?
Yes they can. That’s why mainstream BDSM isn’t interested in timer release mechanisms.
However, male chastity causes unique issues for the dominant, especially — as is often the case — if she’s a vanilla wife or girlfriend experimenting to see if she likes “this kinky stuff”.
Unlike other kinks, male chastity leads away from male orgasm which, putting it mildly, can be very counterintuitive, and violates the culturally expected flow of sex. Worse, it persists beyond sexy time and into the next morning… the next working day, the next night out, the next visit to the in-laws, and there’s a realistic prospect that he will change his mind during that time creating an uncomfortably meta dilemma for her.
Put it all together, and that’s a lot of responsibility and second-guessing. In other words, male chastity creates emotional labour for the “keyholder”.
If that’s a problem for the dominant, then it’s a problem for the submissive. He won’t be able to surrender to the experience, and he’ll have the nagging worry she won’t want to do this again.
Enter the kSafe time lock safe!
Suddenly, she’s no longer a keyholder. The key is… temporarily… gone. Any qualms she might have are allayed by his very tangible upfront commitment; he’s literally put the key in the safe and surrendered control to her. The key can still be recovered — at a cost — in case of emergencies, but her responsibility ends with that click. Chastity is fire-and-forget until she wants to remember it.
She still has the power to sentence him to extended lock up, but thanks to the safe, she’s doing this for real. She can sentence him on a whim, or because it’s hot, or out of cruelty, or because it’s funny… but once it’s done it’s done… unless she wants to extend it.
And while he’s locked, she has the guilt-free space to explore and hopefully enjoy the experience of having his penis out-of-action. She can even feel sorry for him when he complains, which he in turn can do without the fear that she will suddenly take pity and pull the plug; “Carefully what you wish for, lol.”
Keeping him locked suddenly becomes very simple and low effort, and if she prefers him that way, it’s natural to set the timer longer and longer… which is what happened to us.
Which is why I say that the kSafe is basically chastity Viagra.
The Ksafe only goes up to 10 days, unfortunately. There is one on Amazon that goes to 41 days (basically 999 hours), but unfortunately it has an override code. Of course, if the man doesn't know that!!!