What's significant about two years in permanent chastity?

And, is there a Two Year Rule for Lifestyle Kink?

…two-year honeymoon period

“Two years feels significant, doesn’t it?” I say.

“Yes,” says Xena. “But I’m not sure why — do the heel, and quiet now. I’m reading.”

So I rub her heel and ponder.

I’m about to reach the second anniversary of the sealing of my chastity device. I’ve spent two years “neutered” (blog post and nsfw pictures here). This will last, according to Xena, “Until things change”. When she’s had a few glasses of wine, she just says, “Forever.”

I’ve known this since the one-year mark. Even so, two years does feel scarily significant.

So, later, I sit down to research this article, and ponder more, and I’m right, it is significant, and it is scary.

First, it’s a test of staying power.

Two years is how long people stick a job, before moving on or not. More importantly, it’s the notorious honeymoon period, after which passion is no longer the default, and — according to Gloria Brame’s Sex for Grownups — people revert to their baseline sexual identity. If that applies to second honeymoons… well neither of us is showing much sign of reverting: Xena still likes me this way, and I’m still deeply submissive.

It’s also two full cycles of the year: “permanent” chastity in all four seasons, in sickness and in health, on the beach and in the pub, in stressful times and relaxed ones, through the ebb and flow of hormones. Through all that, there’s not been a single moment when Xena toyed with releasing me. I never found myself plucking up courage to tell her “no”. Nor did the sinister low-impact device cause any issues.

So, we and the Custom Chastity device all passed the test. If we can do two years without flagging, then we can carry on indefinitely.

…neither of us know how our relationship would work without the permanent chastity device.

Second, we’re past the point of no return.

Two years is long enough that both our lives have changed. Xena has a promotion, I’m doing more remote contracting. We’ve both survived Covid, and we’re both fitter and healthier than before. Even our social lives are different. Me being “neutered” is just part of this life we share.

It’s also long enough that neither of us know how our relationship would work without the permanent chastity device. I’m a submissive chastity fetishist — or am I demi-gender? — and Xena likes me without a functioning penis. We have the perfect solution, so why would either of us want to change? Even if one of us were to have doubts, two years is a significant sunk cost.

So, we can no longer imagine a different lifestyle.

Finally, we can see the future and it’s chaste.

Every milestone is a now a “third time”. I’m about to go through my third New Year’s Eve neutered. Then my third Spring, and then Summer, Autumn and Winter. And somewhere in there are birthdays and a wedding anniversary. Two birthdays sealed is an adventure, three is a habit.

Which brings us to the horrors of the Lindy Effect:

…the future life expectancy of some non-perishable things, like a technology or an idea, is proportional to their current age.
(Wikipedia)

In other words, if something has lasted a year, there’s a 50% chance of it lasting another year, and a 25% chance of it lasting another two years. Lifting the maths from somebody smarter than me, I get a table like this:

I should have been more scared…

This time, back in 2021, I should have been more scared than I was: there was a 25% chance of doing a full four years. Now I’m sitting here in 2022, just past the 2-year mark, and everything has doubled! I have an even chance of reaching four years, and a significant chance of reaching eight! That doubling feels… significant.

So, at least another two years neutered is now a realistic prediction.

Does this mean that there’s a Two Year Rule for Lifestyle Kink?

If you’ve spent two years in a kinky lifestyle, and there’s no sign of it going off the rails, then it’s proven its staying power, you’re past the point of no return, and you can reasonbly expect at least another two years of the same.

Looking back, it was at the two-year mark when our Female Led Relationship became open-ended and just part of who we were. Nearly seven years later, we’re still here, Xena is still in charge… only now my permanently chaste status is where my surrendered husband status was.

It’s a cliché, but it’s true: Careful what you wish for! (That should be the motto of Custom Chastity, who made this hellish permanent chastity device.)

Careful what you wish for!

Read my chastity erotica and find our what happens if you really aren’t careful what you wish for!