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While I don't believe HSP is a thing (in a qualitative sense -- not even as much of a thing as most what passes for "neurodivergence" nowadays) I do think that there's something intuitively appealing to the rock/kite notion.

And I'm saying it as someone who while probably not particularly "sensitive", has a tendency to introspect and analyse A LOT as a way of doing life (and at times, relationships tho oddly less than other things perhaps...) and who has had a (vanilla ISH) LTR with another largely kite type person (tho there were rocky complications on both sides).

Yet specifically in the realm of d/s dynamics, even casual ones, I found myself rather surprisingly realising that while I love to analyse relationship dynamics *as mechanics to unpick* I ABSOLUTELY don't want to do it much with the other concerned party as a form of intimacy. Which is interesting because it means I'm more open to doing it with strangers. Not because it's threatening in a classic sense but because I feel it leads to convoluted and fundamentally unnecessary complication. I'm not sure if I'm explaining myself well, but I think I second your main point and I feel d/s is a better framework for avoiding deconstructive overanalysis.

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