Male Chastity Technology the Day After Tomorrow
How sextech might shape the future of male chastity devices
If we’re going to talk about where male chastity tech is going, then we should start with the day after tomorrow. (See all Future of Chastity Articles.)
There are things that are already technically feasible, but haven’t happened yet, and they are all related to Security, specifically muzzling — the issue of preventing the wearer from breaking out of the device during intimate time — and neutering — the negating of sexual function.
Dating Apps: patching the Muzzling Issue
In gay dating, locked bois are already a thing. There are stories of chaste Grindr adventures, and Recon, the fetish gay dating app, was very early in introducing Chastity as a tag. The main issue is actually Surprise Chastity — not all tops want to discover a caged cock.
There’s no similar scene for straight chaste dating.
Some kink goes on via OK Cupid, and maybe the dilution of the definition of “femdom” will cause some cross over. However, locked men just aren’t a thing in the same way. Kink is a bigger ask and more of a red flag for straight women than it is for gay men. That will only change over time, if at all.
And for that to happen, we have to solve the reverse of the gay Surprise Chastity problem: Surprise Cock.
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A woman who chooses to date a locked man clearly doesn’t want to encounter an unlocked erect penis.
Women on average are at a physical disadvantage to men, so “whoops no chastity cage after all (fooled yah!)” would be a very threatening experience, and yet not on its own something meriting a call to the police.
So the “Muzzling” part of Security is a critical prerequisite to “Locked man” taking off as a dating category.
The only currently feasible mechanical technical fix is an extreme and inconvenient one: locked men with devices secured by piercings, and then verified by 3rd party keyholders. That’s all rather too much fuss and too much infrastructure! It’s not going to entice mainstream women into trying “cock free” on a whim. Nor are dating apps going to spend the money integrating all that.
A simpler fix would be to allow users to verify locked men.
There have been several attempts to launch an app with date reviews, e.g. The Grade in 2015 and Do I Date back in 2017. All of them flopped. Everybody wants to read other people’s reviews, but nobody wants to be reviewed! And for good reason. It’s just too open to abuse by people who didn’t get a second date.
But how about an app letting you opt in to your date getting automated follow-up questions to such as “Did he present as described?” “If you got intimate, did he respect your boundaries?” After you get - say - three “No” answers, your profile becomes increasingly downgraded. (Machine learning could weed out habitual review bombers.)
Something like that would help you assure female users that if you order a locked man, that’s probably what you’ll get. A start at least.
Biometrics: Virtual Neutering
Whereas chaste dating is about Muzzling, chastity relationships are about Neutering: “He doesn’t get to orgasm unless she wants him to”.
Alas, there is no currently no non-destructive mechanical way to prevent a man having an orgasm. Even if he’s pierced and welded into his inescapable cock cage, a vibrator or a butt plug, or a vibrating butt plug, will get him off.
The good news is that your wearable probably already knows when you’ve had an orgasm, or at least it can spot moments when your heart rate goes up, but you aren’t racking up a matching step count.
There’s a lot of interest in biometric orgasm detection. There’s already been some weird techbro crypto-related attempt to use biometrics to track sexual activity, which doesn’t seem to have gone anywhere. However, we can expect more sustainable progress from the medical community, who want non-intrusive ways to monitor sexual function, and — naturally — from geeks interested in automatic edging machines.
So, we can’t be far from turning our smart watches into purity monitors set to report back to keyholders, or just upload the information to a site similar to emlalock. If we remove the watch or have an orgasm, then somebody — everybody — would know.
That sort of transparency would put our sexual function off limits, and by making us accountable, would make us virtually neutered.
Update: Well a biometric chastity device seems to be on its way: https://chastitytek.com/
What’s likely in male chastity the day after tomorrow?
I’d love to see a straight dating scene for chaste men. However, I don’t think it’s going to happen yet, even with the sort of date follow-up verification I described.
However, I think biometric orgasm detection is just around the corner… it’s probably already there but hasn’t been shrink-wrapped. Kinky couples are certainly going to use it. It might also be an entry point for vanilla couples… starting with orgasm control and drifting into chastity games and more.
It could also, potentially, be a proxy for muzzling on dating apps: if a man can prove he’s done 100 days without an orgasm, it offers some assurance that he will continue that streak.
Unfortunately, the only apps who might consider connecting to a chastity monitoring service would be gay ones, and gay men are on the whole into muzzling but not neutering: they want the cage to stay on, but the wearer to get off.
So, in the short term, the technology is going to make couple chastity work, but not much else is going to change.
The picture is intriguingly different in the next ten years…
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