Consent and Careful What You Wish For
How consent in long term relationships becomes... blurry.
“What if...?"
We're approaching the 1-year mark for "permanent chastity", and I'm probing to see where the limits are.
We've already established Xena isn't going to release me any time soon, even if I beg.
"What if I just remove the device anyway?" I ask.
"Go ahead," she says, "but where's the fun in that? You wouldn't be my slave any more."
"So I'm only your slave if I stay sealed in?"
"Of course."
"Oh," I say, feeling very uncomfortably turned on.
Xena has said on many occasions that the only way she can relate to me sexually is with me as her chaste slave. This isn't a negotiating position, this is authentically where she's at the moment.
So I can select between:
OPTION A: The right to privately masturbate, but a dead bedroom.
OPTION B: Fulfilling chastity and Femdom, but too much of it.
OPTION C: Fulfilling chastity and Femdom, but with vanilla phases where I sometimes take the initiative, and can also masturbate if I feel like it, and some playful kink where Xena pushes my buttons with corsets and stockings and...
Given 100% freedom of choice, I'd choose Option C. That seems the healthiest, happiest path. However, that option isn't available. Xena just isn't interested. Me taking the initiative turns her off. She doesn't enjoy penetration at the moment. She likes being in charge, isn't interested in pandering to my specific fetishes.
So though I retain the ability to withdraw consent, it's not a very meaningful ability. There's no real going back. I'm stuck as a chaste slave.
Within the context of a long term relationship, "Careful what you wish for" is more than a cliché.
Yes, C would probably be my first choice, too. But somehow the fact that she takes that choice off the table in a FLR makes B all the more exciting.
I find chastity to be exactly as you describe. If you got to write the original script, it may look a bit different. But for it to work at all, it MUST be more in line with HER wishes than yours, I feel.